The risky business of marital infidelity

When news broke that the details of 37 million users had been hacked on the adultery website Ashley Madison, it made headlines around the world. Noel Biderman, the company’s founder, reveals all about hate mail, privacy and the risky business of infidelity
Illicit Encounters is the UK’s oldest website for people seeking affairs
Illicit Encounters is the UK’s oldest website for people seeking affairs

The emails are easy enough for Noel Biderman to ignore. He gets them on a fairly regular basis: he’s a scumbag, ruined someone’s life, he’ll burn in hell, that kind of thing. Occasionally, too, he will get a call from a psychiatrist who explains that, as difficult as it is to break patient confidentiality, they’ve got someone who is sounding violent, directing their anger his way.

Even the death threats he has learnt to live with, although when they first started happening he freaked out a bit; travelling to Sydney in 2010 to launch his Toronto-based company in Australia, he paid two ex-MI6 operatives to travel with him.

“It turns out a lot of it was in my mind,” he says, pausing midway through a