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1 Friday, July 16, 1982 A-9 The Post-Crescent, Aopleton-Neenoh-Menosha, Wis. Women in gray flannel suits: Watching the kids (TV- center has affected absenteeism, but in the manufacturing department, absenteeism dropped over 50,000 hours in the center's first year. Companies can help in different ways. Steel-Case Inc. has an information and referral program.

It found that the great distances its 6,000 employees traveled from home to its various Last of three parts office-furniture manufacturing facilities in Grand Rapids, made an on-site day-care center impractical. So Pat Ward and associate Bonnie Negen gather all child care information in the greater Grand Rapids area and then counsel Steel-Case employees. A similar problem long commuting distances led the Manhattan law firm of Slade Pellman and Beihle to take advantage of the Economic Recovery Act of 1981, effective the first of this year. It allows companies to offer employees salary reductions as a way of paying child care costs. 13.

BY MARLENE AIG Associated Press writer BLOOMFIELD, CONN. (AP) Every night Debbie Kowalcyzk packs two bags so she'll be ready for work the next morning. One is filled with her files and work papers. The other is packed with diapers and baby food. "I put them together at night so I won't forget anything," said Debbie, who takes her 15-month-old daughter Lynn with her to work at Connecticut General Life Insurance Co.

every morning. Husband Wayne gets breakfast while Debbie gets the baby ready for work. When Lynn is sick, the couple decides whose meetings are more important that day. "If they're equal," she said, "it's a coin toss," Lynn doesn't actually go to the office with mother, an assistant director of investment systems. She spends the day amid cribs, rag dolls and brightly colored mobiles in a day care center Connecticut General set up for its employees and local residents.

Just as Debbie and Wayne Kowalcyzk are adapting their lives to be parents as well as corporate executives, corporations like Connecticut General are adapting their style to help women be executives and mothers. More and more women are deciding that being a mother doesn't mean you can't be a manager. And if one firm doesn't encourage a woman to continue her career after motherhood, another will. A National Center for Health Statistics study showed an increasing number of women are waiting until their 30s before having children. An important factor in that delay, it said, Finding love on corporate ladder Cosmetics sales executive Elaine Moore sits in the office of her northern Cincinnati home.

Moore is a member of the advisory council to the National Association for Female Executives and also presides over a career exchange network for women. (AP photo Jenny Latour Huss, 37, a marketing director of Gourmet magazine has been taking 2l2-year-old daughter Tory and a nanny for the child on her quarterly business trips since Tory was a few months old. "I felt that the need for a young child to be with her mother was vital," said Huss, who finances the trips for Tory and the nanny. A week after giving birth, Susan Fisher, 35, was back on the job as a vice president and director of marketing for Chemical Bank in New York. "I was very lucky," said the mother of two.

"Both my babies slept for long stretches and weren't any problem." But the majority of working mothers do so as much out of economic need as for career fulfillment. Particularly those who live outside major urban areas have to find other solutions to the child-care question. "Management at CG realized in the 1970s that the work force of the future would depend more and more on women and there would be more and more working families," said Alison Kenworthy, assistant director of Connecticut General employee facilities and employee services. In 1975. an old dairy barn was converted into the day care center for 55 Working In 10 of the cases studied, one person was dismissed and women are twice as likely to be dismissed.

"In an organization, it's a game who's sleeping with who and if there's an office divorce, it's like a small-town divorce. Sides are taken. Someone suffers." said Jeanne Bos-son Driscoll. "Men accept women as wives and lovers, but not as peers. Men and women both have to learn to work together as colleagues." Driscoll, whose Williamstown, consulting firm specializes in productivity and, by association, male-female relationships, said it's natural for thoughts of romance to blossom in the work place.

"Achievement-oriented people, like corporate people, are working together and become stimulated. There's a creative energy and charge and a physical energy and an attraction. Some people see this attraction as romance." Her firm offers managers ideas on how to deal with office romance before it becomes destructive, advising them to counsel both partners, or at least one, if they can, and to present the reasonable options. "One has to say, is this the person of a lifetime or a job of a lifetime? Which can be more easily sacrificed?" bargain tured the queen. He lived to regret it.

Declarer had to ruff spades with dummy's 10 and ace of hearts and could then use only the jack to draw a second round of trumps. West's nine therefore became the master trump; and the defenders also got three clubs, defeating the contract. BETTER PLANNING In a position of this kind, declarer should plan to ruff with low trumps and use the top trump to win a round of trumps. South should therefore put up dummy's ace of hearts at the first trick. After the queen of trumps drops South can take the ace of spades, ruff a spade, return with the ace of diamonds to ruff another spade and then return with a diamond ruff to draw trumps with the king and jack.

DAILY QUESTION Partner bids one notrump (16 to 18 points), and the next player passes. You hold: S-K84; H-932; D-K842; C-QJ8. What do you say? ANSWER: Bid three notrump. An aggressive opponent may risk a speculative double of three notrump if you have raised to two notrump. Even if his double goes sour, nobody can have enough extra strength to punish him with a redouble.

But he must fear a redouble if you jump to three notrump. You prefer to discourage a light double when you have only nine points so bid three notrump. C9 The Internal Revenue Service has not ruled on the salary reduction aspect of the law and it has been given little publicity. Essentially, an employer lowers an employee's salary by a certain amount, which is then funneled into a special account for child care. Neither the employee nor the employer is taxed on the amount.

Partner Andrew Rahl said the firm opted for this plan because "It's a small firm It makes some of our people happy without inconveniencing the rest." Six or seven of the firm's 30 employees have taken the plan, he said. The long-distance commuting problem coupled with scattered plant sites are the main reasons why Polaroid Corp. of Cambridge, decided to help pay for the cost of child care, using existing child care centers in the Massachusetts-Rhode Island area. Child care subsidies are offered on a sliding scale to all employees earning less than $25,000 and the employees choose their own centers. The company also offers information and referral to those who don't qualify for the subsidies.

ond husbands at Connecticut Mutual, where all three still work. While her first husband was in a different department, her second husband used to be her supervisor. When she and Bob Massero decided to marry, she recalled, the division head told them "he didn't want to lose either of us, but one of us had to go. And Bob was the supervisor. It was easier if I were transferred." There are many married couples at Connecticut Mutual, and that's not unusual, said organizational management specialist Dr.

Robert Quinn of the State University of New York at Albany. "Organizations are natural environments for the emergence of romantic relationships," said the professor. "People come to work dressed well, they're on their best behavior, they work together and develop the same interests." Except most office romances don't end happily ever after. Quinn did a study of the impact of 130 romances on job performance and productivity and found that, almost 90 of the time, results were negative mainly in the form of office gossip. Resentment and jealousy are other effects and, if office affairs begin to disrupt business affairs or if the affair fizzles, the sting of cupid's arrow is ultimately more painful for the woman.

Sheinwold on bridge A poor BY ALFRED SHEINWOLD Everybody loves a bargain even readers of this column, famous for their intelligence. The lure of a "free" finesse caused South's downfall in today's hand. South dealer Both sides vulnerable NORTH A 10 5 10 6 5 3 K643 WEST K84 K842 8 EAST J97532 J97 A 10 9 SOUTH A 10 6 8 7 6 4 0 A 752 South West North East 1 Pass 2 Pass 2 Pass 4 All Pass Opening lead 2 South greedily played dummys low trump at the first trick and cap I was a desire to establish a career, "It used to be you worked a while, i then got married and had a baby," said Wendy Reid Crisp, editor of Savvy magazine, who didn't stop working while raising five children. V'Women going to work all their lives 'creates a new set of demands." Today, 500 companies, including 550 hospitals, are actively involved in child care assistance. Of the 250 corporations, a fifth are like Connecticut ieneral with day care centers on the campus.

The rest help parents find day care for their children, either through information and refer-4 nils, subsidies or other arrange-i ments. The federal government has given I new impetus to providing child care i by offering tax benefits to employees and employers for that care, Klsewhere, "flextime" born out of 1 the energy crunch and an effort to ease commuter crush, has proven a solution tochild care for some women and men who can adjust their work schedules to meet the needs of their children. Message delivered from heaven "Tin; i.it fl sA i children. It is run by Kinder-Care, a day-care chain that runs 700 centers nationwide. The response to the Living and Learning Center has been so positive that a new, larger center is being built.

"It's nice that Lynn is so close," said Debbie Kowalczyk, adding that visiting her daughter "breaks up my day nicely. And certainly, the center is a definite influence on whether I'll look for another job." Increased worker loyalty is one of the beneficial spinoffs companies are discovering in their efforts to cater to the new family woman. Intermedics, a Freeport, Texas-based medical products company, was having a hard time matching salaries of the other corporations, such as Dow Chemicals and Amoco, in the Texas Gulf region. It was also having a problem with absenteeism, much of it related to women who had to stay home with their children. The company opened its on-site day-care center in 1979 and now runs the largest such center in the country with more than 250 children.

"Turnover has decreased 60 in the first two years of operation," said center director Alice Duncan. She said it's hard to gauge how much the dren think we are rolling in money. Our modest investments won't pay off until we reach retirement age, and by then we will need every dime. They all have bigger incomes than ours, dine out frequently, bowl twice a week, play poker, bingo and dress to the nines. When we were their age we didn't live like they do.

How can people like us protect ourselves without losing the love of our children when we don't come across with "loans" that never will be repaid? Torn in Michigan Dear First, a kid who kites a check should be made to face the consequences. If he knows Grandpa will rush to the rescue, he will probably do it again. Second: It's okay to help married so that no one is slighted," she said. Soon to be added to the house, built in 1901, are stained-glass windows in strategic areas. Painted a bold London blue with banisters Texas Star yellow, Molly Young's provides a striking contrast to the conservative pastels of the Queen Anne houses across the street.

"I love colors," Holmes said. "When you enter my house, you have to smile." Replicas keeping The world of country-style decorating is at once friendly, stylish and livable. And, the feverish intensity at which it is growing is evident everywhere. Prairie fashion apparel, folk art, primitive collectibles all are being sought by long-time and newly-initiated country devotees. An unusually attractive "keeping room" an extension of a kitchen in a recently renovated townhouse in downtown Lancaster, Pa.

offers some ideas for others in love with country. The cozy setting is decorated exclusively with museum replicas. Interior designer Ruth Macleod included thecharm of painted furniture, "scrubbed" pine pieces and pewter and pottery accessories. Shechosea Welsh dresser and New England Duckbill chairs in Prussian Blue, and a Vermont Pewter Cupboard in a Cranberry Red to complement the antique pine finish of the Hutch table. The 48-inch round table is ideal for small spaces and its tilt-top allows it to be pushed against the wall when not in use.

All pieces are from Thomasville's i Ann Landers Dear Ann Landers: I would like to provide an update for the woman who signed herself, "The Elephant in Petaluma." She wanted to know what happened to the man who wanted to be buried in his 1939 Dodge. I am that man. I am sorry to report that my wish could not be granted. Although I died eight years ago in Redding, the Dodge was recalled by its maker three years before I was recalled by mine. Love It Here Dear Love: Yours is the first letter I have ever received from heaven.

Next time please send your communication by satellite. The angel who delivered the message to my office BY MARLENE AIG Associated Press writer NEW YORK (AP) Office affairs used to follow a protocol when he was the boss and she was the secretary. If they were found out, she was expected leave, while he carried on as if nothing had happened. Now that the water cooler gossip has a new female lead the managerial woman the actors aren't the same, but the protocol isn't so different. The main difference is that the women are no longer extra pawns on the corporate gameboard.

They are competing for the same power square as many of the men and corporations must learn to deal with a new kind of war between the sexes where the enemy is also the ally. "Corporate incest," is how anthropologist Margaret Mead termed sex at the office. She declared that if women were going to be on an equal footing with men, "we have to develop decent sex mores It's very difficult to run an army if the general is in love with the sergeant." Like many companies, Connecticut Mutual Life Insurance Co. in Hartford, has adopted a policy that people in the same department can't live together or be married because it's possible one will become the other's supervisor. Sue Massero met her first and sec i hildren if they are hard-working and responsible.

But all loans should be businesslike transactions. To float a second loan when the first one hasn't been paid is foolish. Kids who get mad at parents because they refuse to give or loan them money are playing a game called "blackmail." Don't go for it. Dear Ann Landers: Our beloved grandmother died at 95. When she became terminally ill, we discussed her burial plans to make sure we followed her wishes.

She did not want a casket and preferred cremation. Someone suggested, as an alternative, that she donate her body to medical science. She agreed. It is uncomplicated, costs nothing and is a noble contribution to medical science. The body is left in the hospital and treated with respect.

The name of the deceased is listed in a booklet, along with others who have made the same decision. We had a memorial service in our church for grandmother, and it was much less draining than the traditional funeral we had for my mother-in-law several months later. I'll sign this At Peace in New Jersey Dear N.J.: Thanks for an excellent alternative. If the person does not die in the hospital, a medical school should be called. The school will give full instructions, along with grateful thanks.

furnish room noteworthy new Replicas 1800 Collection. On the floor is a "floor cloth" an oil cloth with stenciled pinwheel and tulip motifs. A wing chair and matching ottoman upholstered in a denim-blue window-pane check provide comfy-cozy relaxation in this dining itting area. Accessories on the table and on display in the open storage of the cabinets represent antique reproductions that may be purchased from the Winterthur Museum in Delaware, the University Museum of Philadelphia, the Smithsonian, Metropolitan Museum, and other well-known repositories of folk art. The keeping room is in the home of ConnieandTom McEvoy, young professionals, who, as newlyweds, chose to renovate an old townhouse.

Their love of color and nostalgic design elements are obvious as is their need for storage and display of unique wedding gifts. Down-to-earth materials like cotton, linen, wool, stoneware, and homemade crafts, complete their American "country" scenario. Renovation turns old house to inn was in terrible shape. Her wings were tattered and she was exhausted. Worse yet, after 24 hours in Chicago, she didn't want to return to heaven.

(You're welcome, Mayor Byrne.) Dear Ann Landers: I just got off the phone with one of our married children who was asking for a loan. I made excuses instead of coming right out and saying, "Your dad and I have to think about our future. When we are broke will you take care of us?" I know it was the right thing to say. So why do I feel guilty? It seems that one of their sons has written a check that has to be covered, or it's trouble with the law. Incidentally, they still owe us for the last loan.

We can't figure out why our chil district or have business in the area. The second-floor rooms with 11 '2-foot ceilings will Victorian furnishings. "It's not my livelihood, so I won't have to be exorbitant in my fees," she said. She divides her times between her husband, three children, church and coaching volleyball and basketball. "I try to make the time organized Playground agenda is announced Appleton Recreation Department playground activities will kick off with a Circus Parade Monday afternoon.

As usual, a square dance at Pierce Park is set for 7 p.m. On Tuesday, the annual hobo picnic will be in the limelight during the daytime. Badger Pool will be the site from 7-9 p.m. of a rock 'n' roll party and 9: p.m. moonlight dance.

Cost is 50 cents. The 1982 "Olympics" is planned 9:30 a.m.-12:15 p.m. Wednesday at the Appleton High School-West track, football field and gymnasium. Tom Sawyer Day, Thursday, will be highlighted by a Crystal River canoe trip. Cost is $6.75 and deadline for sign-up is Wednesday.

On Friday, championship games in softball and basketball are planned. Hawaiian theme chosen for Id jJIV-l llt- MENASHA A Hawaiian luau theme will prevail at the second annual picnic Aug. 12 at Oakridge Gardens Nursing Center, 1700 Midway Road. Family, friends and staff are invited to attend the festivities, which will begin at 5 p.m. Luau attire is 7, rV dSWflkJ Si MOBILE, Ala.

(AP) Finding space for the eight bathrooms was a major task, says Darlene Holmes, surveying renovation of the late-Victorian and Queen Anne-style house in Mobile's historic district. But it's been done. Now Holmes has spaces' for the claw-footed tubs, pedestal sinks, and commodes some under staircases in the house that opened this summer as the port city's first "bed 'n' breakfast" inn. The European-type facilities are popular in historical districts in other cities in this country, and are considered distinct from the traditional boarding house. The spirit and demure face of Molly Young, the elder sister of Holmes's grandmother, are the house trademarks: the name, "Molly Young's Bed 'n' Breakfast Inn." "She was accidentally shot at age 18 by her little brother who was playing with a Civil War pistol," Holmes related.

"She's buried in Tudor Cemetery at Houlka, Miss. "We're going to put her face on our menus and little church fans." Holmes, a 33-year-old with auburn hair and an inspiring laugh, said it had taken two years to talk her husband, David, into this project. He's a city fireman with a sideline in fire alarms. Upstairs, three double rooms and a single will provide accommodations for overnighters who visit the historic Down's Syndrome parent group to organize mfnasha An organizational meeting of Down's Syndrome parent group of Outagamie and Winnebago LmiiK ie spt 7 n.m. Wednesdav at luuiiiiu the Neenah-Menasha ARC Buidling, 375 Winnebago St.

The informal social meeting will offer reading material on Down's Syndrome as well as other information. Future meetings will be planned. Those interested may contact Kate Curran, 808 E. Atlantic Appleton, or Kris Seefeldt, 649 Grove St. Keeping house in a "keeping room" is charming using the home character of pine and painted furniture pieces.

Quality reproductions and accessories available from well-known American museums decorate the sitting dining area..