If the crown fits, wear it.
The man behind Ashley Madison, who calls himself “The King of Infidelity,” may have used his own cheating website to have multiple affairs despite claiming he has stayed faithful to his wife.
Leaked emails from the massive hacking scandal plaguing the adultery site appear to show its CEO and founder Noel Biderman strayed from his happy marriage several times — at least once with an escort and another woman who he carried on with for several years, BuzzFeed News reported.
The multimillionaire Ontario father of two children told the Daily News last year he never strayed from his wife because of how badly it would hurt her if he did.
“If I wanted to have an affair, I would have one,” he said at the time.
But hundreds of suggestive emails reportedly revealed by hackers appear to prove otherwise.
Correspondence obtained by BuzzFeed purportedly shows Biderman’s nearly 3-year-long affair with a Toronto escort, who broke things off over “guilt-ridden” feelings about her boyfriend.
“He’s very intuitive and almost found out last time. I’m sorry. I don’t want to lose him. As much as I need the money. I talked to him this morning and my sense of guilt made me imagine that he knows,” the woman named Melisa wrote in a September 2014 email.
“I love him and I couldn’t look him in the eye if I went through with this. I’m sorry,” she told Biderman, while also asking to borrow $1,500.
Biderman, who has published a book on how cheating saves modern marriages, also penned emails to another woman, telling her he was “fantasizing about later this evening.”
He told the News last year he believes cheating is not wrong, but also not for him.
The family man also addressed infidelity in an April exclusive interview with VV Magazine, saying his biggest concern when booting up the business in 2002 was his spouse.
“Was my own partner going to see me differently? Was she going to judge me for the actual husband I was versus the one I was being portrayed as on TV? It’s so illogical to point all of these fingers when we have that culture,” Biderman said.
Biderman’s wife has said in interviews that she would be “devastated” if she ever found out her husband was having sex outside of their marriage.
But he told VV they don’t address the issue more than an average couple would.
“I think I’m like most other people. I don’t recall sitting down with my wife and saying, ‘Hey, what’s acceptable in the sense of monogamy? Am I allowed to go to strip clubs? What am I allowed to do at strip clubs? Can I get a massage?’ he said. “I don’t recall any of those conversations.”
Biderman also discusses the nightmare behind a possible hack.
“If anyone tells you that they don’t fear hacking, they are lying to you,” he said. “Putting the data in a bunker away from everybody else is our approach. But everyone is fearful of it. We have done a really great job of making sure our data is kept secret; the anonymity of it hopefully gives comfort to our members.”
