Dear Abby: When I met my husband, I felt valued. But ever since I got pregnant, he no longer considers my feelings or treats me as a priority. I have to beg for his support, but when his mom and sister need help, he is quick to help them.
The reason I married him was because he seemed loyal and dedicated to his family, and I thought he would be that way with us. However, during the last few months of my pregnancy I have felt ignored. He is not really excited about the baby, and we haven’t bonded while I am pregnant.
I feel like I’m the last item on his list. I am slowly detaching from him. Even if things change when the baby is here, I don’t think I’ll respect him or have those love feelings anymore. I now see him in a different light that I find unattractive. Please help.
-- At a Crossroads in Maine
Dear Crossroads: Before this goes any further, recognize that you have steered yourself to a fork in the road. The path you should take is the one that leads to your OB-GYN’s office. Your doctor should be told what is happening in your head and in your marriage because you could be experiencing symptoms of pre-partum depression. Do not put this off. Your baby is going to need a father, and the further you distance yourself from your husband, the less likely it will be that they have one.
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