For the bold and brainy: Best dating sites for geeks, nerds, and sci-fi buffs

Because nothing says true love like a shared obsession with obscure D&D lore.
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OkCupid

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AdultFriendFinder

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Best for serious relationships

Match

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Best Match alternative

Hinge

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Best for career-focused folks

EliteSingles

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Best if you believe in love at first sight

happn

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Best if you have marriage on the mind

eharmony

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Dating site to avoid

Zoosk

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Let's face it: geeks wear their hearts on their sleeves. We have no problem diving headfirst into our passions and expressing ourselves wholeheartedly. But when it comes to dating, finding someone who respects that enthusiasm can feel like cracking an impossible code.

For women, it can involve a lot of creepy guys who are chasing their manic pixie dream girl. For men, it's a constant dance to avoid being labeled "that guy." And if you're in the majority of geeks who are a little bit introverted, dating can be more than a little intimidating.

Are there dating sites for geeks?

Yes, there are a handful of niche dating sites designed specifically for nerds, but you may not need them.

We compared the internet's top dating sites, trendy swiping apps, and geek-specific platforms to find the ones where proud nerds can express themselves and find that twin flame. Hidden among millions and millions of users, you could find someone who shares your most obscure passions and interests, whether it's an endless debate about whether there will ever be a Pokémon game as good as Pokémon Emerald or the perfect couple's cosplay inspired by your favorite Star Trek characters. Bonus: they're all readily accessible via the App Store and the Google Play Store.

Just remember this: Even if a potential match doesn't share your specific hobby or interest, they could still be the right partner for you. Don't fall for this common geek relationship fallacy. What's more important is that they respect your most nerdy obsessions, and vice versa.

You'll notice that we no longer include any geek-specific sites (e.g., Soul Geek, Gamer Dating, Dating for Muggles) in our recommendations because we found these niche dating sites to be out-of-date — you can find more info on this decision in our 'How we tested' section below.

Here are our top picks for the best dating sites for geeks, nerds, and anyone passionate about their niche hobbies:

Our Pick

Who it's for:

OkCupid has stepped up and is now one of the most popular dating sites for left-leaning 25 to 35-year-olds looking to find a more profound, meaningful connection. Though not officially geek-specific, OkCupid's large user base, profile prompts clearly aimed at nerdy folks, and filtering features can help you find your other half.

Whether you're searching for a fellow gamer to conquer virtual worlds with, a comic book enthusiast to attend conventions together, or a self-proclaimed dork who shares your passion for geek culture, OkCupid offers a welcoming and inclusive space where geeks and nerds can find someone who appreciates their unique passions.

Why we picked this:

OkCupid is particularly well-suited for geeks and nerds who value intellectual compatibility and shared interests.

By allowing users to answer in-depth questions about their hobbies, OkCupid gives you the opportunity to find a romantic partner who shares your enthusiasm for gaming, science fiction, technology, comics, or any other geeky pursuit.

To find other nerds, answer prompts like how you'd spend your Friday night by being honest and specific, like saying you're playing Magic: The Gathering at your local game store. Even better, OkCupid's specific prompts about your memorable board game moments, who you main in melee, and what anime defined your childhood make the process even easier.

Plus, with a massive and inclusive user base, the odds are stacked in your favor of finding a fellow nerd who understands your references and embraces and celebrates your geekiness.

Read our full OkCupid review.

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AdultFriendFinder

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Match

Best for serious relationships

Who it's for:

Match boasts a diverse user base with plenty of opportunities for everyone. According to their website, 19 percent of users are between 18 and 29, 44 percent are between 30 and 40, and 37 percent are 50 or older. This mix makes it an excellent starting place for those new to online dating or anyone looking for a broad range of potential matches.

If you're serious about finding a soulmate and have some disposable income, Match is the place to go. This online dating community is also one of the largest and most reputable matchmaking services online, with millions of active users logging in daily.

Why we picked this:

Match might not be the first name that pops into your head for geek dating, but it's got a few tricks up its sleeve. Sure, it might not be the cheapest option for singles, but when it comes to finding your Player Two, sometimes a little extra effort goes a long way. The platform is user-friendly, has a clean interface, and features a lengthy matchmaking questionnaire to help optimize your dating profile and narrow your matches as efficiently as possible.

The app's profile customization options give you plenty of chances to show off your personality. Blast your love for anime, horror marathons, or the latest VR tech with a massive library of interest tags. Let everyone know you're the ultimate Comic-Con attendee or that you crave "Intellectual Stimulation" (because who doesn't?).

Match even lets you geek out further with essay-style answers to specific topics. The paid features help weed out casual browsers, and requiring at least one clear photo (you can add up to 26 to your profile) shows everyone on the platform is here to put in the effort.

Read our full review of Match.

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Hinge

Best Match alternative

Who it's for:

Hinge is the ideal dating app for geeky 20 to 30-somethings looking to see where a connection takes them. It's not as serious as eharmony and a little more hip than Match, with on-profile videos, prompts, and a fresh, modern design.

Hinge is a top-three dating app among young people between the ages of 18 and 29 (Tinder and Bumble have more users), according to research from the Pew Research Center. The organization found that approximately one in five young people have used Hinge, and among online dating app users in this demographic, 39 percent used Hinge.

Why we picked this:

Even though Hinge is a part of Match Group, it takes a more personalized approach to dating. With Hinge, you can embrace your geekiness and showcase your interests through the app's profile prompts and on-profile videos. The more you put yourself out there, the higher your chances of finding your lobster (or that special someone).

Because users are encouraged to respond to profile prompts and engage in conversations based on shared interests, Hinge provides a platform where geeks can connect on a deeper level beyond looks.

While some users have complained that Hinge uses an "attractiveness score," we haven't found any concrete evidence of it within the app itself.

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EliteSingles

Best for career-focused folks

Who it's for:

EliteSingles is designed to help educated, mentally, and emotionally mature singles find a potential match. This dating site isn't for one-night stands or endless swiping. These singles are busy and don't have time for that BS.

Why we picked this:

With its in-depth, 200-question personality test that assesses important traits like agreeableness, openness, extraversion, conscientiousness, and neuroticism, this dating app takes matchmaking to a whole new level.

EliteSingles knows us analytical geeks appreciate a thorough approach. The in-depth test unlocks your unique personality and nerdy passions, then uses that data to find matches who are genuinely compatible on an intellectual level.

Unlike other apps that rely on endless swiping, EliteSingles simplifies the process by curating a selection of three to five highly compatible matches for you each day. This thoughtful approach saves you time and energy, allowing you to focus on getting to know your matches on a deeper level.

Read our comparison of EliteSingles vs. eharmony.

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happn

Best if you believe in love at first sight

Who it's for:

You know how when you see a cute stranger you hope they'll miraculously pop up on your dating apps? This app ups the chances by showing people you've seen in real life based on your smartphone’s location tracking. Think of it as meeting your next great love in line at a coffee shop — without awkward in-person icebreakers.

Why we picked this:

For those who've always dreamed of having a meet-cute moment straight out of a romantic comedy, happn brings that fantasy to life. By leveraging your location, this niche dating site creates opportunities for spontaneous connections with people you've crossed paths with in your daily life. It's like having your very own rom-com script unfolding right in front of you. Maybe that person you've seen at the local game store but have been too shy to go up to will pop up.

Happn's unique approach to dating is the ideal setup for rom-com geeks who appreciate the allure of unexpected encounters and the potential for a true love story to emerge from the most unlikely places. Instead of swiping through endless profiles, happn focuses on those meaningful moments when your eyes meet across a crowded street or cross in a bustling café.

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eharmony dating app

eharmony

Best if you have marriage on the mind

Who it's for:

The eharmony brand has been matching singles online for over 20 years — but the platform feels fresh and modern despite being online for a long time. The trusted dating site is ideal for singles who are ready to settle down and find their forever person. Remember that the guiding ethos of eharmony is true love and marriage — so if you’re not ready to get that serious, you might want to choose another platform.

Why we picked this:

eharmony's advanced matching algorithm sets it apart from other dating platforms. With 32 different dimensions of compatibility, it delves deep into your personality traits, values, beliefs, and preferences to ensure highly compatible matches. This meticulous approach increases the likelihood of finding a partner who aligns with your core values and aspirations.

Like most dating apps, eharmony has a space to add interests and hobbies. Though none are specifically nerdy, you can definitely use the extensive profile to share what you're passionate about so you can connect with your fellow nerds looking for a long-term connection.

And if you're a member of the LGBTQ+ community, you'll be happy to know that eharmony has pivoted far from its historically heteronormative approach. In fact, the platform has evolved so much that it's angered quite a few religious groups, including One Million Moms, which even started a petition to have the company remove its same-sex ads from TV.

Read our full review of eharmony.

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Zoosk dating app

Zoosk

Dating site to avoid

Who it's for:

Zoosk isn't the trendiest or most visually appealing dating platform, and unfortunately, it doesn't have great features for daters either. That's why we recommend you steer clear of this dating site unless you're really dying to use a dating platform not owned by Match Group. (Zoosk is owned by Spark Networks, which also owns Christin Mingle, Jdate, and EliteSingles.)

Why we don't recommend this:

There are a ton of options out there for dating sites these days, and Zoosk doesn't stand out. It's filled with bot accounts, isn't cheap, and requires paying for most basic features, like messaging. Considering there are free dating sites for serious connections and paid sites that tend to attract more real (literally, not just emotionally) people, we'd say you'd probably do best to take your geeky interests and open heart elsewhere.

Read our full review of Zoosk.

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How we tested

To offer our readers the most reliable and current information, we regularly test online dating sites to ensure they're worth joining. We extensively examine each site's features and functionality, from signup to the actual user experience.

Our testing process involves creating different types of profiles, some complete and others incomplete, to track the number of matches generated with incomplete profiles. This can suggest a lack of quality control, bots, and fake users.

For this roundup, we revisited several geek-specific sites we'd previously recommended, including GamerDating, SoulGeek, and Dating for Muggles. While they might have been decent options in the past — and they definitely cater to a geeky crowd — these days, they seem too outdated and lack active users to reasonably recommend. However, many mainstream apps these days allow for enough profile customization that you can freely share your interests and find your fellow geeks "out in the wild."

We also assess the diversity and inclusivity of each platform we review, including whether or not it caters to the LGBTQ+ community. Apps on this list with linked reviews have been hands-on tested by Mashable staff writers or freelance journalists with experience researching and writing about sex and relationships.

Leah Stodart
Leah Stodart
Senior Shopping Reporter

Leah Stodart is a Philadelphia-based Senior Shopping Reporter at Mashable where she covers essential home tech like vacuums and TVs as well as sustainable swaps and travel. Her ever-growing experience in these categories comes in clutch when making recommendations on how to spend your money during shopping holidays like Black Friday, which Leah has been covering for Mashable since 2017.

Leah graduated from Penn State University in 2016 with dual degrees in Sociology and Media Studies. When she's not writing about shopping (or shopping online for herself), she's almost definitely watching a horror movie, "RuPaul's Drag Race," or "The Office." You can follow her on X at @notleah or email her at [email protected].

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Tabitha Britt
Freelance Writer

Tabitha Britt is a freelance writer, editor, SEO & content strategist. Aside from writing for Mashable, Tabitha is also the founding editor-in-chief of DO YOU ENDO — a digital magazine by individuals with endometriosis, for individuals with endometriosis. She has a Master's degree in Creative Publishing and Critical Journalism from The New School of Social Research and is a grad of Sextech School. You can find more of her work in various online pubs, including National Geographic, Insider, Kinkly, and others.


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